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 1        Introduction - Christmas Day 2020

1. It was a pleasant family occasion ruined for me by your selfish invasion of your mother-in-law - MiL - 's and my private life.
   
2. Towards its end, MiL told everyone that she woke to carols and how pleasing it was.
3. You immediately announced that the action I took to give her an Xmas morning surprise was based on brownie points - BPs.
4. This is not the first time I have been highly embarrassed by you and this time I made comment.
5. Almost under my breath I replied that what you said was not the case. At the cost of embarrassing all assembled I was forced to stop.
   
6. However, you added insult to injury by continuing.
7. I moved to end the party.
8. I know for sure that MiL was also embarrassed and she referred to it on Boxing Day evening in the context of me doing nothing. A prime reason for confidentiality.

2         Interruption

1. Around 18 months ago J and you came round. MiL and I were in the room. I said abso nothing, much to MiL's chagrin after. A few weeks before, 'your full family' (including boyfriends) were in the sunshine. Your repeatedly interrupted me whenever I opened my mouth.
2. On other occasions, J found it necessary to tell you not to interrupt her.

3        Centre of attention

1. One theme of this confidential interaction* is that you need to be the centre of attention.
   
2. This aspect of your behaviour is the main concern. It leaves me guarded when you are around.
3. If your interest in being a guru means being the centre of attention then open your mind.
4. Otherwise, if you find that you must be such in the presence of your family, please advise us and we won't come anymore.
5. However, that won't happen because MiL doesn't understand the BP concept and will be mystified as to why we don't visit you.

* One-way at present.

4        The Bully

1. At its simplest the definition the bully is one who puts another at a disadvantage.
2. Clearly, I was the latter. If you repeat your negativity towards me in the social situation I will have no choice but to put the boot on the other foot.
3. You will be the one disadvantaged.
4. On confrontation, the bully is a coward. Think about it.

pagetop    Email 8 March