Email 3 March

1  Introduction - Christmas Day 2020

2 Interruption

3 Centre of attention

4 Bully

5 In conclusion

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Update 10 May 3.4

1 Introduction - Christmas Day 2020

1. It was a pleasant family occasion ruined for me by your selfish invasion of your mother-in-law - MiL - 's and my private life.
   
2. Towards its end, MiL told everyone that she woke to carols on Xmas morning earlier and how pleasing it was.
3. You immediately announced that the action I took to give her an Xmas morning surprise was based on brownie points - BPs.
4. This is not the first time I have been highly embarrassed by you and this time I made comment.
5. Almost under my breath I replied that what you said was not the case. At the cost of embarrassing all assembled I was forced to stop.
   
6. However, you added insult to injury by continuing.
7. I moved to end the party.
8. I know for sure that MiL was also embarrassed and she referred to it on Boxing Day evening in the context of me doing nothing. A prime reason for confidentiality.

2 Interruption

1. Around 18 months ago J and you came round. I said absolutely nothing, much to MiL's upset after.
2. A few weeks before, 'your full family' (including boyfriends) were in the sunshine. Your repeatedly interrupted me whenever I opened my mouth.
3. On other occasions, J found it necessary to tell you not to interrupt her.

3 Centre of attention

1. One theme of this confidential interaction* is that you need to be the centre of attention.
   
2. This aspect of your behaviour is the main concern. It leaves me guarded when you are around.
3. If your interest in being a guru means being the centre of attention then open your mind.
4. Otherwise, if you find that you must be such in the presence of your family, please advise us and we won't come anymore.  Update 10 May - email sent to him confirming this.
5. However, that won't happen because MiL doesn't understand the BP concept and will be mystified as to why we don't visit you.

* One-way at present.      7 May No engagement possible.

4  Bully

1. At its simplest the definition the bully is one who puts another at the disadvantage of being unable to fight back.
2. Clearly, I was the latter. If you repeat your negativity towards me in the social situation I will have no choice but to put the boot on the other foot.
3. You will be the one disadvantaged.
4. On confrontation, the bully is a coward. Think on.
5. As a former social psychologist I dealt with complicated situations at times. Titrating from that experience and applying it to your characteristics, I suspect that you are and have been a consistent bully. The hope is that heaven helped your family.

5  In conclusion

1. I won't deny that there have been times when our social interaction has been normal.
2. Are you man enough to acknowledge that you have disadvantaged me?
3. Thank you for once helping in the garden.
4. Best wishes for a better future.

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He wrote apologising. I responded by saying he should apologise to all his family.

It was then that the balloon went up{!}.

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